![]() I was going through what I like to call my High Morbid Feminist phase, and searching for evidence of objectification and exploitation. In my late teens, after a debilitating few years battling with anorexia, my sex drive had all but evaporated, and when I ventured back into the online fold at university, I didn’t do it for pleasure. Later, I was far more interested in having sex than watching it, particularly, in front of mirrors. If you’re female, you might just need to spend a little more time riffling through the racks, so to speak. Whatever the fantasy you’d like to explore, there’s a porn clip out there for you. Far from believing that porn is responsible for our social and intimate decay, I am zealous about its capacity to cheer up our stress-rich, time-poor, care-worn lives. I love porn, and ever since I began researching it for my work, I’ve become increasingly seduced by its gushing celebration of the human body in all its variety its capacity for pleasure beyond the bounds of moral, missionary stricture and the fantasy outlet it provides. ![]() After all, we’re human, and our brains are wired to find novelty exciting, irrespective of our genitals or gender. We love a dopamine hit as much as the next fella. A new German sex study has confirmed what I have long suspected and that heavy use of pornography could make some of us “hypersexual” - a personality disorder that involves spending excessive time engaged in sexual fantasies. Of course, the act of cuckolding has its own rules, where consent and comfort play the key role, for neither of the two should feel like they’re being exploited or violated.įor some, cuckolding brings out an irresistible desire for their partner, heightening their arousal while for others it becomes a way to fall in love with their partner all over again.Women are just as capable of being ‘addicted’ to porn as men. However, for someone who finds a partner that gets turned on by watching them go at it with someone else, it is no less than cracking a jackpot. Not that most men who are into this fetish do it without protection, which is why, the win for them, in the end, becomes - your partner’s desire for you over the other guy.īordering on emotions of humiliation and sexual vanity, where a man might be turned on when his partner is physically being desired by someone else, while the fetish might have a logic behind it, it is gravely misunderstood in a society like ours, where monogamy is idolized. Psychologist Dr David Ley in his book, ‘ Insatiable Wives ’ mentioned the possibility of watching your partner with someone else often makes one enthusiastic and motivated enough to beat the other guy’s sperm for fertilization. And of course, there is the entire trope about wanting to do something that is called forbidden by the monogamous society we live in, only to get off of it. The reason why anyone would be into something like this, which clearly seems emotionally scarring to most of us, is because the act tends to induce jealousy into the mix, which is a good catalyst for arousal. The kink is also not very uncommon when you come to think about it, and just how highly searched a category ‘cuckolding’ is on porn websites, is pretty telling in itself. In fact, the word ‘cuck’ is used to refer to a man who is weak or in this case - not alpha enough to ‘control his woman’. What sounds to some as their worst nightmare, is actually a sexual fetish for quite a few men out there, who get off on the idea of sexual jealousy. However, what these people fail to acknowledge is that the idea of getting turned on by watching your partner get intimate with someone else is not taboo, it’s a legit fetish and it is called cuckolding.Ĭuckolding, in simple terms, means watching your partner have sex with another person. And we get why that may be.īecause getting turned on by watching other men show interest in your woman, can be a very explosive and controversial thought to have in what people like to call a ‘loving relationship’. While society and most people understand where the first three emotions come from, it is the one where you get turned on by the sight, which is the most scandalous. Would you feel proud? Insecure? Cocky? Or a rather less admitted feeling - turned on ? ![]() Walking with her hand in your hand in a room full of people, makes you feel good about yourself.īut, if we were to change the dynamics of this equation just by a tad bit, where you’re not simply walking into a room with her, but she’s also getting the attention of every other guy in the room, how would it make you feel? Your partner is everything you want her to be - smart, sexy, caring, daring, whatever qualities float your boat. For the sake of this article, let’s assume that you’re in a relationship. ![]()
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